11-2-20 Monday

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C is looking for advice. Back story: they adopted W, who is 8 months old, for their older male kitty P3 to play with because his sister, P, wouldn’t play with him. Things went very well at first, but then – well, you can read the email below.

I think I remember you saying that Jake had an intense fascination to one of the girls and the girl would sometimes fuss at him. Did he ever “attack” her playful like or anything which ended up in fur flying? If so, was there anything to be done to help the situation?

W for some reason in the last 3 weeks has taken to blocking P’s path and then chasing and jumping her when she goes past him. Frequently this causes her to hiss and he stops short which is fine. But 3 different times he and she scuffled rather badly and with lots of fur flying everywhere and cats flipping around and it bloodied her paw twice. Once was bad, the other minor.

She has always been skittish and P2 [her brother, who has passed] used to chase her and she would hiss and he would stop but there was never a cat flipping fight. P3 reacts quickly and whacks W to tell him to cut it out and W stops yowling at that point but the damage is already done.

I have feliways around. Each time it has happened I’ve separated the cats using screens in the doorways so they could still see each other but not reach each other and they all act curious vs. angry. I play with him a lot hoping he won’t feel he has to “play” with her. P3 and W chase each other all around the the house with obvious playing and swatting.

Whenever I see him fixating on her, I have used toys to distract him which works but only for the moment. So I’m at a loss as to how to cure this, if it’s even possible.

Any thoughts?

I recommended that C check out Jackson Galaxy’s line of holistic solutions and also mentioned Rescue Remedy, both of which they’re going to try. (I also would have suggested Feliway plug-ins, which they’re already using, and stepping in when they see the issue beginning, which they’re already doing.)

So does anyone out there have any suggestions? W and P got along great for the first few months, but this is turning into a real problem (even with the screens, he’s started yowling and jumping at her) and any suggestion would be VERY much appreciated.


Annie Oakley always looks so SUSPICIOUS.

Eclair always looks so SERIOUS (but meanwhile was purring up a storm when I took this picture.)

Tater Tot’s all “HALLO!”

“We gonna snuggle, or what?”

A little lapful – Buffalo Bill, Calamity Jane and Wild Bill, with Candy Apple behind them. And Davy Crockett’s paws.

Candy Apple (on top of the scratcher, being walked over by Fritter) has a case of what I like to call “happy tail.” She walks around with her tail so high in the air it nearly brushes the back of her head. She’s a HAPPY girl.

Funnel Cake enjoys the top of that scratcher.

I’m not allowed to scoop the litter boxes unsnoopervised. In case you wondered.

Snowcone and Funnel Cake are havin’ a snuggle.

Another time, another lapful – Fritter, Buffalo Bill, Snowcone, Eclair, Wild Bill. Over to the right, sitting next to me, is Onion Ring.


This is a sign of fall: the cats spend their mornings snoozing upstairs instead of on the screened porch.


2019: No entry.
2017: Hubble looks at me and asks “HOW is this HAPPENING?!”
2016: Kittens from above.
2015: No entry.
2014: No entry.
2013: HATurday.
2012: Fred laughed and said “God, he was SO UGLY.” Which, exCUSE me, offensive! Hmph.
2011: Alice may be all grown up, but she still plays like a kitten!
2010: Please do not be jealous of my fancy photo studio.
2009: “I heard they was servin’ chocolate pudding at the Senior Center. Outta my WAY!”
2008: No entry.
2007: “Um, NO. There is NO ROOM on the platform, so move away. MOVE AWAY, I say!”
2006: No entry.
2005: Tragic.